Hi. I'm Rob. I grew up in Upstate New York. In many ways, my home life
was somewhat unusual compared to many. A large number of my classmates
grew up in one-parent families. My father and mother were both in the
home. This is a blessing that I am thankful for. We were never rich,
but we were also never in want.
Although my mother and father were both present in the home, there were
times that I had felt like they were not there for me. My dad worked
second shift for much of my school career so there were many times that
I would only get to see him on Saturdays and Sundays. Although my mom was
a stay-at-home mom, there was a period of time that she was gone many
nights a week. The reason was that our community had been sighted for a
Low Level Radioactive Waste Dump. She had become part of a large group
that was fighting against this dump coming to our area. I also saw a lot
of drinking and some drugging in the house.
In elementary, I was never an exceptional student. I generally made it by
getting C's and B's but had parents who were OK with that. I could have
done better. The reason I know this is because I always did very well on my
tests, but was always lacking in my homework. School work was never something
that I took great pleasure in, and by the time I was in Jr. High and High
School, I had become a much worse student with much worse (often failing)
grades. In Junior High, I had failed English and Social Studies. Again, It
wasn't because I couldn't do the work. It was because I didn't have any
interest. It got to the point that I was on the road that would have lead to
drop-out. After many meetings with my teachers and staff, it was recommended
that I no longer go to my regular school and that I start attending an
“Alternative School” where I ended up earning my High School Diploma.
The reason I liked school was because of the socialization that happened.
Not all of the socialization was positive unfortunately. We hear about things
like bullying and the effect it can have on a person's psyche now, but when I
was in school, it was not an issue that was talked about. There were people who
picked on me, some to the point of belittling me. One of my harshest critics
were some kids that went to a Christian school in the same town that I lived in.
I grew up in a house where God had never been talked about. One day, as I was
getting on the bus to go home from school, I was talking to the Christian kids
about what we had “learned” that day. In science class, we learned about
evolution. I was telling the typical public school/humanist teaching about how
the scientists had “proven” that we had evolved from lower life forms. For
telling them this, I was labeled an “unbeliever.” One of the church kids went so
far as to tell me that God hated me and that I deserved hell. During the
socialization that happened in summer school, I was introduced to harder drugs
than those I had seen my parents use.
I became a Christian when I was in High School. After becoming a Christian, things
had changed in my life. In August 2001, I started Bible school. In Bible School,
I had become backslidden. The two big reasons were because of the hypocrisy I saw
and a bad experience that happened to me when I was in college. I ended up getting
kicked out of the school I was going to. After being kicked out, I got back into the
party scene. I also started living with a girl I was not married to. As I was living
with her, I met my future wife on Yahoo! Christian Chat. Although I was living in a
backslidden state, I still longed for true Christian fellowship. I was only looking
for a friend, but I ended up meeting Christina who became so much more! She ended up
moving to New York in 2003.
Because of circumstances beyond our control, Christina had to stop living with the
family she was supposed to live with until we got married. Because of this we lived
together until we were married on February 21, 2004.
Since we have been married, I have made some big mistakes. I have also had many great
experiences and seen God move mightily. I have been made closer to what God wants me
to be. I have become a better husband and father. My love for people and desire to see
them become children of God and be more effective in the Kingdom of God has increased.
My desire for the church is for genuine repentance to come into the church! I also
desire that the Kingdom is advanced by churches utilizing technology to reach out
to people, and church members reaching out to others on a local level first. And for
the church universally to eventually reach the world!
c 2009 Equip His Body ~ Springfield, MO